THE ACT IN MEN Habit of Masturbation

The hand is the most common object of masturbation. In men, the penis is stroked, massaged or squeezed with one or both hands until erection is achieved. Sometimes, erection is aroused by sight or by the thought of a woman. Men imagine all the actions and pleasures associated with sex and how wonderful an admired lady would be in bed. This causes them to feel excited. The erection is then maintained by handling the penis until the point of ejaculation.

Some men use lubricants, such as soap, cream, etc to make the hand more slippery as it passes forwards and backwards over the penis. The lubricant reduces the chance of bruising the penis in the process. Some men have been known to use other objects or method to achieve orgasm. Some use other devises made of soft rubber shaped like the female vagina while some have been known to create holes in their mattress for the same purpose.

Once orgasm is achieved, which is indicated by ejaculation, the person feels relaxed as if he had normal sexual intercourse. In some, who have formed a habit of masturbating regularly, this relief may be followed by a strong sense of GUILT and a RESOLUTION to STOP indulging in the habit; but like all habits, they would do it again and again with little or no self control.

The Habit of Masturbation THE ACT IN WOMEN

Masturbation is a sexual behaviour developed in childhood. This behaviour is normally discarded as the individual grows up into adulthood. It becomes an abnormal situation when it is sustained to adulthood. The following are some of the reasons why masturbation is practiced.

(A) Lateness in Getting Married:
The men become fully sexually developed without a steady partner for relieving their sexual arousals. Those who cannot seek sexual relationship with prostitutes often continue the adolescent practice of masturbation.

(B) Boarding of Adolescents:
This encourages exchange of information about masturbation and allows room for adventures into it. When such boarding facilities are unisex and far away from where sexual intercourse with the other sex is possible, then masturbation becomes quite rampant. Adolescents and everyone involved in this habit are therefore advised to access my free GIFT which is a collection of edifying downloadable e-books for the development of the mind at

(C) Sex Materials:

With technological advancement comes literature (books, magazines, pictures) and audio-visual materials (films, televisions and videos) which arouse sexual desires in individuals.

In women, the hand is also the first instrument to try when masturbating. The clitoris is stroke, fondled or squeezed to arouse sexual response. This causes the clitoris to swell and the secretion of fluid in and around the vagina. This, of course, is associated with a pleasurable feeling. The lips of the vagina are also stroked with the fingers and as the vagina becomes wet with secretion, the fingers may be poked in and out of the vagina. The stroking of the clitoris, lips of the vagina and poking of the vagina are alternated at random and at will until orgasm is achieved.

Of course in women, orgasm is less easy to recognize as there is no ejaculation of semen. It is usually associated with an intense emotional feeling of loss of control of oneself for a brief period. This may be accompanied by rhythmic contraction of the muscles around the vagina and the anus, in a fashion similar to that felt by men during ejaculation. As masturbation becomes a habit in women, other objects apart from the hand are used. The candle is an object that is used by many girls, while some use dido which is an object shaped like the male penis. Other women use vibrator which is also an object shaped like the male penis and which has a battery that causes it to vibrate when switched on. Recent research has revealed that in addition to the reasons listed earlier in this work, most people decide to masturbate because of:

 their decision not to be unfaithful to their partners,

 their fear of contracting HIV/AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases,

 their fear of unwanted pregnancies,

 their bitterness and disappointment of past or recent experience in relationships with men or women, and

 lack of confidence and courage in reaching out to people of the opposite sex.

I Have Been Thinking

Albert Camus said: Don't walk behind me; I may not lead. Don't walk in front of me; I may not follow. Just walk beside me and be my friend.

Keep Your Man .... Fit!

10 Men's Health Symptoms Your Guy Shouldn't Ignore
By Jennifer Gruenemay
Men are notorious for ignoring health symptoms and avoiding the doctor's office. Broken pinky? Just use duct tape. But not all medical issues can be fixed so easily. What may be a pesky problem to a man could be erectile dysfunction, sleep apnea, prostate cancer and more. Here are 10 health symptoms your guy – and you – should take seriously...
Even when a man finally admits to feeling crummy, getting him to schedule a doctor’s appointment is like getting a cat to agree to a bath.

“American men make 130 million fewer [doctor] visits each year than women,” says Will Courtenay, Ph.D., California psychotherapist who specializes in treating men.

According to a 2007 Harris Interactive poll, 92% of men surveyed wait at least a few days before seeing a doctor when they have a health concern just in case the problem gets better on its own; 29% wait "as long as possible."

But your man isn’t invincible.

Delaying check-ups and treatment until he’s seriously ill is a gamble nobody should take, especially because not all ailments have symptoms.

That’s where you come in. Women can help their men spot trouble. Here are 10 danger signs to watch out for:

Danger sign #1: He has a big gut.

If his waist is bigger than his hips, he raises his risk for disease.

“A man should maintain a measurement under 40 inches,” says Walter Gaman, M.D., of
Executive Medicine of Texas. “If the waist size exceeds that, the risk for diabetes and heart disease increase.”A large belly can also contribute to stroke, sleep apnea and osteoarthritis, he says.

Here’s how to check if your man measures up:

1. Measure his waist where the point of his elbow falls when his arms hang at the sides. Have him first breathe out and then take shallow breaths as you measure.

2. Measure his hips at the widest part of his buttocks, as seen from the side. The measuring tape should be snug, but tight.

3. To calculate his waist-to-hip ratio, divide his waist measurement by his hip measurement. Men are considered at risk if the result is 90% or more.

A moderate diet and exercise program can help your guy cut the belly fat and his risk for heart disease and diabetes.

Cutting out sodas (even diet drinks) and alcoholic beverages can be an effortless way to lose 10 pounds over a year, Gaman says.

Plus, get him off the couch and into workout gear.

Daily exercise aerobic exercise and strength training is best, says
Isaac Eliaz, M.D., director of research at Amitabha Clinic in Northern California. Encourage him to slowly increase the length and intensity of the workouts – but by no more than a 5% increase in weights every couple weeks.

Danger sign #2: He's frequently constipated.

Tell him to save grunting for the weight room. Too much straining from constipation can lead to painful, itchy and downright uncomfortable hemorrhoids.

After age 50, constipation tends to worsen in men and women, says Cynthia Yoshida, a gastroenterologist in Charlottesville, Va. Blame diet changes, decrease in exercise, medications, certain diseases or prolonged bed rest after an accident or illness.Occasional constipation can be relieved with an over-the-counter remedy. Yoshida recommends MiraLAX, because it doesn’t have side effects that other remedies do, such as bloating, cramps, gas or a sudden urge to go.

Most important, don't let him shrug off chronic constipation as a nuisance. It can signal a tumor in the lower bowel that’s blocking waste from exiting the body.

In fact, any change in bowel habits (constipation or diarrhea) that last two or more weeks should be evaluated. Both can signal colorectal cancer, which is the third-leading cause of cancer-related death in men, Yoshida says.

Other symptoms to watch for: bloody or narrow stools, unexplained weight loss or fatigue, cramping and bloating, Yoshida says.

“Colorectal cancer can be present for several years before symptoms develop,” she says. “So it’s important to see a doctor if you have any of the above symptoms.”
Danger sign #3: He can't "get it up" or keep it there.

A bruised ego isn't the only problem your fellow has to face if he's having trouble getting or maintaining erections.

Erectile dysfunction (ED) can be a side effect of some medications (for example, high blood pressure drugs and diuretics) or smoking, says Dennis Lin, M.D., sex psychologist and attending physician at the Department of Psychiatry at Beth Israel Medical Center in New York.

But it also may mean he’s twice as likely to die of a heart attack, according to a German study of 1,519 men. ED is also linked to high cholesterol, diabetes, kidney disease, chronic alcoholism, multiple sclerosis, vascular disease and neurologic disease, Lin says.

And don’t forget about possible psychological factors: Stress, anxiety, guilt, depression, low self-esteem, and fear of sexual failure cause 10%-20% of ED cases. So when is it time to get a doctor’s help?

“When erection problems prevent you from having a healthy sex life,” Lin says. “There should be a low threshold to see a doctor.”
Danger sign #4: He loves to bake in the sun.When it comes to men and cancer, you hear a lot about prostates and colons. But skin cancer is the No. 1 diagnosed cancer in men and women.

“Skin cancer rates are skyrocketing – it’s the most rapidly increasing cancer in the U.S.,” Courtenay says. “And the death rate from melanoma – the deadliest form – is twice as high for men as it is for women.”

The majority of skin cancers occur in Caucasian men over age 50, says D.J. Verret, M.D., a head and neck surgeon in Dallas.

Other risk factors include:
  • Being older than 40
  • Fair skin, red hair or blue eyes
  • An inability to tan
  • Increased UR exposure (outdoor activities or work)
  • Sunbathing or use of tanning beds
  • A history of radiation therapy
  • Personal or family history of skin cancer
  • An impaired immune system

Protect your man plus yourself and the kids by applying broad-spectrum sunscreen (which blocks both ultraviolet A and B rays) every 2-3 hours.

Select an SPF (sun protection factor) of at least 30, she says, and look for these active ingredients on the label: zinc, titanium and avobenzone.

Skin cancer can develop any place that’s exposed to UV radiation, so don’t overlook his ears, nose, lips, scalp, forehead, neck and shoulders. Check out more
sun slip-ups.

Stash a facial moisturizer with sunscreen in your man’s toiletry bag, and tuck a sunscreen stick in his workout bag and glove box for last-minute applications.

Danger sign #5: Antacids are his best friend.

Unfortunately, indigestion, or acid reflux, is a frequent unwanted guest at game-night parties with pepperoni pizza, spicy chili, onion rings and beer.

Occasional heartburn is nothing to worry about, but chronic acid reflux two or more times a week, especially at night suggests he has gastro-esophogeal reflux disease (GERD), Eliaz says.

Left untreated, GERD can lead to inflammation, bleeding and ulcers of the esophagus and even esophageal cancer.

Most cases of heartburn are easily treated.

“Changes in eating habits and daily routines can [reduce] the number of future episodes,” Eliaz says.

Start by avoiding these:

  • Trans fats
  • Processed meats
  • Sugars
  • Highly processed foods
  • Carbonated beverages
  • Acidic fruits and juices
  • Alcohol
  • Peppermint
  • Chocolate
  • Nuts
  • Caffeinated food and beverages
  • Oily foods

Raising the head of the bed 4-6 inches not with pillows but by putting blocks under its legs also may help ease discomfort, Eliaz says. Plus, nag him to lose weight, stop smoking and eat smaller meals. For more remedies, check out 15 Dos and Don’ts of Heartburn.

If those steps don’t help, over-the-counter proton pump inhibitors (PPIs) often can relieve frequent heartburn, says Michael Rahmin, M.D., a gastroenterologist in Ridgewood, N.J. He suggests Zegerid OTC the most recent PPI to receive FDA approval. It offers 24-hour relief with one dose a day as part of a 14-day treatment.

If the burn still persists, your man needs to see a doctor. If the esophageal lining is constantly aggravated by leaking stomach acids, inflammation can occur and develop into a precancerous disease called Barrett’s esophagus, Eliaz says. One in 50 of those with Barrett’s develops esophageal cancer.

Danger sign #6: He's always thirsty.

An unquenchable thirst is a symptom of diabetes, an incurable metabolic disease that raises blood sugar levels. So are frequent urination, extreme hunger, fatigue, unexplained weight loss or gain, nausea, blurred vision, sores that are slow to heal, frequent infections, ED, and tingling in the hands and feet, Eliaz says.

Diabetes is the sixth leading cause of death in men, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC).

Risk factors include:

  • Being older than 45 years of age
  • Having a parent or sibling with diabetes
  • Being overweight
  • High blood pressure
  • High cholesterol
  • History of vascular disease
  • Habitual physical inactivity

A simple yearly blood test at his doctor’s office can measure glucose levels and diagnose diabetes, Gaman says.

If he’s having symptoms, he may need a more advanced blood test called a hemoglobin A1C that tracks glucose levels over a longer period.

Danger sign #7: He snores.

If a chainsaw or Mack truck can’t compete with your sweetheart’s nightly noises, don’t run for cover in another room. Get help: Chronic snoring can be serious.

Severe snoring accompanied by breathing lapses are signs of obstructive sleep apnea syndrome (OSAS), Verret says. If untreated, it increases the risk of high blood pressure, irregular heartbeat, heart attack, stroke and sudden death.

A poor night's sleep can also contribute to daytime drowsiness, which boosts his risk of accidents. Unintentional injuries are the third-leading cause of death in men, according to the CDC.

If you're lucky enough to sleep through the snoring, watch for other sleep apnea signs, such as feeling tired during the day, thrashing arms and legs while sleeping, decreased libido, mood swings and sometimes depression, Verret says.

Changing sleep positions, losing weight (as little as 10 pounds) and avoiding alcohol, sedatives and large meals before bedtime may help stop the noise.

If they don't, schedule a doctor's visit and consider other treatments, such as surgery, the continuous positive airway pressure (CPAP) a device that blows air into the nose while he’s asleep or a dental appliance to pull the jaw and tongue forward at night, Verret says.

It could save his life or at the least your relationship.

Danger sign #8: He's short of breath, wheezes or coughs up mucus.
Shortness of breath, wheezing and a persistent cough can stem from several health conditions, such as asthma, obesity and heart disease. But it also signals chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (COPD), the fifth leading cause of death in men, according to the CDC.

“COPD is almost always caused by smoking,” says Edward T. Bope, M.D., family medicine residency director at Riverside Methodist Hospital in Columbus, Ohio.

Second-hand smoke, chemical fumes, air pollution and dust can also cause the disease.

Its symptoms shouldn’t be ignored because COPD gets worse as time goes by, Bope says.

Danger sign #9: He feels pain while peeing.

In women, “it hurts when I pee” usually means an annoying bladder infection. In men, it signals an enlarged prostate gland or prostate cancer.

“If they live long enough, most men are going to have to deal with the symptoms of an enlarged prostate,” says Janet Farrar Worthington, co-author of The Prostate: A Guide for Men and the Women Who Love Them (Grand Central Publishing).

Benign prostatic hyperplasia (BPH), a non-cancerous enlargement of the prostate, may be caused by hormone changes in aging men, Eliaz says.

“Fifty percent of men in their 60s and as many as 90% in their 70s have it,” he says.

But painful urination is a sign of a more serious problem: prostate cancer, which 1 in 6 men will develop, according to the Prostate Cancer Foundation.

Your man’s risk increases if he's over age 50, overweight, doesn't exercise or African-American and has one or more first-degree relative (father, brother, son) with a history of prostate cancer. A new study published yesterday also linked not drinking enough coffee to increased prostate cancer risk.

Another risk factor: a vasectomy, Eliaz says. Some studies have shown a link between the surgical birth control method and prostate cancer, but the increase in risk is relatively small, according to the
National Cancer Institute.

The earliest stages of prostate cancer often have no symptoms, so routine screening for prostate specific antigen levels is important. Plus, get your man to a doctor immediately if he has any sign of prostate trouble.

Common symptoms of prostate cancer and BPH include trouble urinating, a weak urine stream, blood in urine or semen, pelvic pain or discomfort and frequent urinary tract infections.

Danger sign #10: He's depressed or has thoughts of suicide.

We all deal with work stress, money worries and other anxieties, but not all men can cope well. Suicide ranks eighth among the CDC's top 10 causes of death in men.

Here are some signs that your mate may be suicidal, Lin says:

  • Suddenly visits friends or family (one last time)
  • Sudden, significant decline or improvement in mood
  • Gets affairs in order, including making a will
  • Buys items that could be used to carry out suicide, such as a gun, rope or medications
  • Talks about suicide
  • Writes a note threatening suicide

“Depression is a serious medical illness like diabetes or asthma,” Lin says. “If he feels depressed, have him see a doctor right away. Waiting for too long can be deadly.”

Counseling, medication and other therapies could save his life.


Today's Word "ephemeron"
Something short-lived
ephemeron \ih-FEM-uh-ron\ (noun) plural ephemera \ih-FEM-uh-ruh\ - 1 : Something short-lived or of no lasting significance. 2 : ephemera: Items, especially printed matter (as posters, broadsides, pamphlets, etc.), intended to be of use or importance for only a short time but preserved by collectors.

"She had seen that the finger of Death was upon her bosom - that, like the ephemeron, she had been made perfect in loveliness only to die..." -- Edgar Allen Poe, 'The Fall of the House of Usher and Other Writings'

Ephemeron is from Greek, from ephemeros, "daily; lasting or living only a day," from epi, "upon" + hemera, "day."



Today's Word "contumely"

Rough treatment arising from contempt
contumely \kon-TYOO-muh-lee; -TOO-; KON-tyoo-mee-lee; -too-; KON-tum-lee\ (noun) - 1 : Rudeness or rough treatment arising from haughtiness and contempt; scornful insolence. 2 : An instance of contemptuousness in act or speech.

"But surely it would be desperate unkindness to add contumely to our self-protection, unless, indeed, we believe that contumely is one of our best means of self-protection." -- Samuel Butler, 'Erewhon'

Contumely comes ultimately from Latin contumelia, outrage, insult.


You want to be active and noticed today. However, you can also be too enthusiastic and rub people the wrong way. Be sensitive to how people are feeling and adjust your energy level to correspond to it.

What Did Say About Brittle?

Health and Beauty Tip -- Trouble with Brittle Nails

If your nails are brittle, you may not be getting enough calcium. Make sure you get plenty in your diet, both in the food you eat, as well as vitamins if necessary. Also, check the labels on your scented or perfumed hand lotions -- these tend to contain alcohol, and can make brittle nails worse.

Are You Talking About Panties?

A thought for the day

 Ralph Waldo Emerson said,

What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.

Failing Is Not An Option!

Quote of the Day
Beverly Sills, US opera singer
You may be disappointed if you fail, but you are doomed if you don't try.

Hand Jobs!

Health and Beauty Tip -- Simple Hand Massage

To stimulate circulation in your hands, rub the palm of one hand over the back of the other, then repeat with the other hand -- something like washing your hands. In addition to stimulating circulation, it also warms your hands.

I'm Special

You feel uncomfortable being in the realms of power. You prefer quiet conversations where you feel like a peer, not a supplicant. Paradoxically, you do want to be treated somewhat special, as well.


Today's Word "Corybantic"
Wild or frenzied
corybantic \kor-i-BAN-tik\ (adjective) - Wild; frenzied; uncontrolled.

"Harold felt that the radio show was worse than merely 'bad,' thinking that it penetrated the mind, filling it with a babble of distractions, blasts of corybantic or sentimental music, and continually repeated doses of drama that brought no catharsis."

After Corybant, an ancient priest of Phrygian goddess Cybele, who performed wild ecstatic dances in her worship.

Busty Blonde Babe With Bald Pussy

Nude European girl, Colette, kneels on her bed, with her pink nipples pointing at the camera, and her meaty lips peeking out her shaved pussy.
We posted another photo of Colette HERE.

Top 10 Items You're Too Old to Wear

By Rachel Fischer Spalding, Special to Lifescript
Walk into any mall and you’ll see a 40-something woman wearing every trend from Forever 21: tight tank top, low-rise jeans, metallic platform heels, plastic bangles and oversized earrings. Are you a middle-aged fashionista who just doesn’t know when to quit? Read on for the top 10 clothing items to leave in the past…
Young and trendy clothes may look great on the killer body of a 40-plus woman. After all, Goldie Hawn shines in her trendy outfits even though they look like she raided daughter Kate Hudson’s closet. But should she?

Definitely not, says celebrity wardrobe stylist Ricci DeMartino, whose clients include Eva Longoria Parker, Patricia Heaton and Lisa Kudrow.

“Living in L.A. like I do, you can go to Malibu and see this look any day of the week!” DeMartino says. “But trying too hard only calls attention to yourself – it’s overcompensating. You don’t need to dress like a teenager to look young.”

Most of us don’t push the clothes age barrier nearly as far, but even a tasteful fashionista may not always know how to dress appropriately as she moves past 35, 40 and beyond. How do you know when it’s time to lose which look? Here’s our style experts' top 10 styles you’re too old to wear:
1. Message T-Shirts

Retail Retirement Age:

Why: You’ve seen them on celebrities: “Jesus Is My Homeboy,” “Your Boyfriend Thinks I’m Hot.” The freedom to express yourself via your wardrobe is part of the teen and 20-something years… but beyond that? Letting people know you’re on “Team Kate” vs. “Team Jon” at 35 just seems, well, desperate.

“The message tee boom was fueled by Young Hollywood,” DeMartino says. “But it’s mostly a way for people to express frustration.” And that doesn’t exactly come off as mature.

Stunning Substitute: “Replace the message tee with a great-quality cotton tee you can dress up or down from a line like James Perse in the hot colors of raspberry or grape,” he says.

2. Too-Trendy Denim

Retail Retirement Age: 35

Why: If it’s super-low-rise, torn, distressed, embellished with rhinestones or embroidery on the pockets or – shudder to think – characters like Mickey Mouse are patched on, go outside your house and light a bonfire now. You’re just too old to wear it.

“Because you’re not in your element with these [too-young items], you only end up looking out of place,” DeMartino says.

Stunning Substitute: Charla Krupp, TV style expert and author of the book How Not to Look Old, suggests swapping too-trendy jeans for boot-cut versions that don’t ride too low on your hips. Because of its slight flare at the leg, the boot cut minimizes hips. Plus, while skinny jeans come and go, this cut is a classic.

When it comes to color, choose more conservative dark denim or black jeans. Want a funkier look? Go for trouser jeans with an exaggerated flare at the hem – a look that can take you from the PTA meeting to a party when paired with the right top.

3. Costume Shoes

Retail Retirement Age:

Why: We’ve all done it: Buy a pair of entirely impractical, overly-theatrical shoes that weren’t suited for everyday life. Maybe they were clear plastic “stripper” heels straight out of Frederick’s of Hollywood. Or perhaps they were stilettos with a six-inch heel you could only walk a block in.

Whatever the case, 40-something fashionistas will look fresher without the too-trendy cork wedges, thigh-high boots or up-to-the-knee Gladiator sandals seen on envelope-pushing A-list youngsters such as Mary-Kate Olsen and Rachel Bilson.

“Anything too high or too crazy should be avoided,” DeMartino says.

Stunning Substitute: Toning down what’s on your tootsies doesn’t mean you’re giving up glam, says Krupp, herself a major shoe fiend who adores heels. But finding the right shoes involves more than image: Feet lose their fatty cushion as we age, necessitating comfier pairs.

Look for wider or thicker heels for better support. Also pick shoes with rubber soles or more padding on the inside – increasingly offered up in fashionable styles from Salvatore Ferragamo, Cole Haan, Aerosoles and others.

4. Micro-mini Skirts

Retail Retirement Age: 40

Why: “Age appropriateness [in fashion] is partially determined by who you are and what you do – so yes, Tina Turner can wear micro-minis on stage that the rest of us would look ridiculous in,” Krupp says. Unless you’re the Private Dancer herself, get yourself and your teeny skirts over to Goodwill.

Stunning Substitute: Krupp’s pick? A chic straight skirt or a sexy-yet-classy pencil skirt, because both allow you to show off some curves without making you look as though you’re pretending you were born after the Reagan years. Just avoid anything four inches or more above the knee. DeMartino suggests adding tights to make a short skirt less risqué.

5. Anything Showing Excessive Cleavage

Retail Retirement Age:

Why: “An older woman shouldn’t feel she needs to show it all off. Anything below the middle of your [bustline] has got to go,” DeMartino says. “A little goes a long way,” writes Krupp, who in her book bans excessive “boobage” past the age of 40 and warns readers not to display too much sagging skin.

Stunning Substitute: “A well-fitted tweed vest can be worn with a blouse underneath; unbutton a few buttons and you’re going to look sexy but classy,” he says.
6. White, Ribbed Cotton Tank Tops

Retail Retirement Age:

Why: Skimpier versions of this men’s-undershirt-style tank are worn all over Hollywood by hot actresses.

“Women today want to keep up with much younger celebrities on TV,” DeMartino says. But what’s cool on the stars of “Gossip Girl” may not work on you. These tanks must go, Krupp says.

Stunning Substitute: A scoop-neck tee from a higher-end T-shirt maker, such as Three Dots, or a double-layer cotton shirt will “still gives you the ability to show off your figure without wearing something [too young],” he says.

7. Hair Gadgets

Retail Retirement Age:

Why: Whether it’s flowery scrunchies, banana clips or your daughter’s plastic kiddie barrettes, whimsical hair accessories are not fitting for a fully grown woman.

“With Hello Kitty in your hair, you’re going to look ridiculous at your age,” DeMartino says. “Remember Chrissy from Three’s Company?”

Stunning Substitute:
If you must use them at all, hair accessories should be subtle – think a tortoise-shell barrette or grosgrain-ribbon headband from J. Crew – and similar in color to your hair. But even some headbands can make for a too-young look – Krupp doesn’t like them at all past a certain age.

8. Oversized, Overly-Decorated Hobo Bags

Retail Retirement Age: 50

Why: Open any magazine, and you’ll see tiny celebrities toting enormous, eye-catching handbags – the skinnier the star, the bigger the bag, it seems. Well, don’t follow suit!

“Avoid these oversized bags with all the bells and whistles…charms…quilting,” DeMartino says. “When you come to a certain age, the good news is you’re beyond trends.”

Stunning Substitute: Try a super-hot-for-fall clutch. “Maybe you can’t fit as much in there, but the point of a handbag is to carry your necessities – not your life,” he says.

9. Cheap, Unflattering Underwear

Retail Retirement Age: 40

Why: “Most women are not fitted properly when it comes to their bras,” DeMartino says. And the more a woman’s breasts [and body] begin to sag, the more important proper, good-quality undergarments are. Both DeMartino and Krupp are obsessed with body-shaping products like Spanx, which stars such as Gwyneth Paltrow have admitted to wearing to smooth out their silhouettes.

“Get a proper bra fitting at an upscale department store, and make friends with shapewear as you get older,” DeMartino says.

And keep in mind that menopause can also change your bra size. “Only the good lingerie from now on,” agrees Krupp, who notes that past age 30, underwear needs to be as supportive as it is sexy.

Stunning Substitute: When it comes to lingerie, you get what you pay for. DeMartino recommends the Cosabella label, while Krupp favors La Perla but also endorses the lower-cost Hanky Panky and Wacoal brands.

“[Good lingerie] can be expensive, but five good bras will last you a while,” he says.
10. Loud Accessories

Retail Retirement Age:

Why: The rubber bracelets, goth-inspired studded belts, zebra purses and plastic earrings proclaim to the world that you’re still plugged in to the trends. We get it – but you can look hip without the teen trappings. Gather up your wild accessories and black nail polish and donate them to the nearest ninth-grader.

“[Accessories like nail glitter] make you look like you crashed a sleepover party,” Krupp writes in her book.

Plus, “you never want to combine too many trends in one look,” DeMartino says.

Stunning Substitute: Think quality and quantity. Limit yourself to one funky accessory per outfit – as long as it’s well-made. Think a leopard-print scarf, thin silver bangles or a gold clutch to dress up nice jeans and a simple top.

One last trend to toss, no matter what outfit you’re wearing: visible or colored bra straps. Your undergarments are meant to be hidden.

You’ll never go wrong with classic styles and subtle accessories, but good fashion students also know that everything in style is subjective.

“Every woman must make her own decisions about when the break the rules,” Krupp notes.

“But what you’re striving for isn’t to look youthful – it’s to look ageless,” DeMartino says. “This way, you’re going to look more fabulous because the look is appropriate for you.”

Where Are The Canals?

Why do the French have canals?

The French system of canals was built for transportation. The Burgundy Canal connects Paris to the Mediterranean. This was a superb idea in the late 1600s when construction was started. But the canal system wasn't completed until the early 1800s, which unfortunately coincided with the advent of Europe's new railroads. The railroads put them out of business. These barges used to be pulled by horses and Spanish prisoners. Today they are used mostly by French people on holiday.

Hidden Where?

Four Places to See the Northern Lights
Thom Sanders
It's one of the most beautiful sights on the planet, the Aurora Borealis. A natural event that many thousands set out to see every year and it's no wonder why. The famous illuminations circle earths polar caps at various points throughout the year, and their multihued aspect create a breath taking sight. Choosing where to see them can be a tricky decision though; this article will take a look at several of the options, to give you a better idea of where you can experience this magical event.

Norway - The town of Tromsø, located in Norway's far north, is famous for its Aurora Borealis activity. The lights in this region occur long after the extended summer days are gone and it's location above the Arctic Circle, well within the Northern Lights region, is widely known as one of the best places to experience the shimmering lights. The town is well equipped with everything you'd need during your stay here but it's not the only way to experience the lights in this region, there's also the option to cruise Norway's fjord-lined coast and experience the lights out on the open water.

Finland - Another northern country famed for its access to the Aurora Borealis is Finland. Many who come here head to Luosto in Northern Finland, the location of the Aurora Chalet. The Chalet is famed for its beeper system that alerts guests to the appearance of the Northern Lights, with data feed to the devices from the Northern Lights Research Center in the nearby town, Sodanklya. If that's a little too far north, then the lights can also be enjoyed in the skies over Nellim, a town located close to Finland's third largest lake, Lake Inari; it makes for a great location to see the lights shimmering over the still lake.

Iceland - Moving away from Scandinavia, our next location is the small island, Iceland. With a capital city that's well known for its nightlife, Iceland makes for a great all round destination to see the Northern Lights. If you want to see the lights while you're here then heading out to the pingvellir National Park. The park is a UNESCO Heritage Site located where the North American and Eurasian continental plates meet, which coincidentally forms a wide open plane perfect for viewing the Aurora Borealis.

Alaska - The final destination on our list is the other side of the globe, Alaska. Although not as often associated with the Aurora Borealis, the US state is still located well within the Northern Lights region. The best way to see the lights here has to be on a costal cruise, away from the lights of the big cities.


Today's Word "tete-a-tete"
Private; confidential
tete-a-tete \TAYT-uh-TAYT; TET-uh-TET\ (adjective) - Private; confidential; familiar.

(noun) - 1 : A private conversation between two people. 2 : A short sofa intended to accommodate two persons.

"There was a phone in her office, but she wasn't near brave enough to hang around having a tete-a- tete with a corpse while she waited for the police." -- Lori Foster, 'Bad Boys to Go'

Tete-a-tete comes from the French, literally "head-to-head."

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Quote of the Day
Victor Borge
Laughter is the closest distance between two people.

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How do cold-blooded rattlesnakes make it through the winter?

Rattlesnakes gather in groups to sleep through the winter. Sometimes up to 1,000 of them will coil up together to keep warm.

How Many Are In Nikkij's Harem?

How many women were in Jahangir's harem?
Jahangir, a 17th-century Indian Mughal ruler, had 5,000 women in his harem and 1,000 young boys. He also owned 12,000 elephants.

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What should wild animals watch out for?

On the average, more animals are killed by motorists than by hunters with guns.

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Today's Word "mephitic"
Offensive to the smell
mephitic \muh-FIT-ik\ (adjective) - 1 : Offensive to the smell; as, mephitic odors. 2 : Poisonous; noxious.

"The mephitic stench from the bilge became overpowering." -- Richard Holmes, Coleridge: Darker Reflections, 1804-1834

Mephitic is the adjective form of mephitis, "a foul-smelling or noxious exhalation from the earth; a stench from any source," from the Latin.


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