Definition Anal Sex

Anal sex  also called anal intercourse  is the sex act in which the penis is inserted into the anus of a sexual partner. The terms also called for this purpose including anus, like pegging, aniline,fingering, and object inserting.

Weather anal sex is usually linked with male homosexuality,  research shows that not all gay males engage in anal sex and that it is not uncommon in heterosexual relationships. Types of anal sex can also be a part of lesbians sexual practices.Many people find anal sex pleasurable, and some may reach orgasm  through stimulation of the prostate in men, and clitoral and G-spot leg stimulation in women.

However, many people find it painful as well.Anal sex can hurt like a mono. The rectum is not built to have things go in; only out. The vagina stretches to let in a penis and give birth, but a rectum does not. That's why, you can cause swear pain if you don't prepare her properly. That means asking her first, using lube and  going very slowly and not pounding into her like a jackrabbit.

Some men may enjoys the inserting  penis in partner's anal sex because the anal tip is usually tighter than a vagina, which can yield greater tactile pleasure for the man via his penis. The attitude of women towards being the receptive partner in this practice is diverse: while some consider it painful or uncomfortable, others find it pleasurable and some even prefer it to vaginal intercourse.

Center for Disease Control and Prevention found that only 26% of men 18 to 59 and 20% of women 18 to 59 had engaged in heterosexual anal sex; a similar 2005 survey of U.K States found a rising incidence of anal sex relations in the American heterosexual population. The survey showed that 40% of men and 35% of women between 25 and 44 had engaged in heterosexual anal sex.

In many Western countries, anal sex has mostly been taboo since the Middle Age when heretical movements ans feeling were sometimes attacked by accusations that their members practiced anal sex among themselves.

As with most forms of sexual interaction, individuals are at risk for contracting sexually transmitted diseases, and that's why safe sex practices are advised. Anal sex is considered a high-risk sexual practice, and unprotected anal sex is the riskiest of all forms of sexual intercourse, due to the safety of the rectum and sphincter tissues. It is also controversial in some religious traditions, often due to prohibitions against homosexual sex acts and/or to teachings about the procreative purpose of sex. However, as attitudes toward sexuality have changed in recent years, many religious groups, especially in Americana Judaism and Christians, have become more accepting of non-procreative sex.
Anal cancer is relatively rare, accounting for about 1 percent of gastrointestinal malignancies, but as many as 4,000 new cases can be diagnosed within a year in the United States, according to the American Cancer Society. Most cases of anal cancer are related to infection with the Human Papilla Virus (HPV). Anal sex alone does not cause anal cancer; the risk of anal cancer through anal sex is attributed to HPV infection, which is often contracted through unprotected anal sex. The incidence of the disease has jumped 160% in men and 78% in women in the last thirty years, according to a 2004 American study. The increase is attributed to changing trends in sexual behavior (such as a history of multiple sex partners, fifteen or more, or receptive anal sex) and smoking.

Oral sex is sexual activity

Oral sex is sexual activity involving the lubrication of the genitalia of a sex partner by the use of the mouth, tongue, teeth or throat. Oral stimulation of other parts of the body as in kissing and licking is usually not considered oral sex.People may engage in oral sex as part of foreplay before sexual intercourse, during, or as intercourse.

Contraception and Safe Sex Oral sex may be practiced by people of all sexual orientations. In heterosexual contexts, oral sex is used by some couples as a method of contraception and may be chosen as an alternative to vaginal intercourse for this reason. Oral sex alone cannot result in pregnancy. Under any normal circumstances, there is no way for sperm from the penis to enter the uterus and Fallopian tube to fertilize an egg. Ingested sperm will be killed and broken down by acid in the stomach and proteins in the small intestine.

The breakdown products will be absorbed as a negligible quantity of nutrients. However, the act does carry a potential risk of pregnancy if semen from the man comes in contact with the vaginal area indirectly. This can occur if the semen in the ejaculation is carried on the fingers, hands, or other body parts; and comes in contact with the vaginal area. It is therefore still necessary to exercise caution when having oral sex to prevent pregnancy.

STD s HPV  (multiple strains), and other Sexual Transmitted Diseases  (STD s) including HIV can be transmitted through oral sex. While the exact risk of transmitting HIV through oral sex is unknown, it is generally thought to be lower than other sex practices. The risks from most of these types of infections are generally considered far less than those associated with vaginal or anal sex.

HPV and Oral Cancer:Recent study suggests a correlation between oral sex and head and neck cancer. It is believed that this is due to the transmission of Human Papilla virus  (HPV), a virus that has been implicated in the majority of cervical cancers and which has been detected in throat cancer tissue in numerous studies. The New England Journal of Medicine study concluded that people who had one to five oral-sex partners in their lifetime had approximately a doubled risk of throat cancer compared with those who never engaged in this activity and those with more than five oral-sex partners had a 250% increased risk

Miscarriage Reduction: Oral sex is correlated with reducing the risk of miscarriages by inducing immunological tolerance to the proteins in sperm, a process known as paternal tolerance. While any exposure to a partner's semen during sexual activity appears to decrease a woman's chances for the various immunological disorders that can occur during pregnancy.

Squirting Premature

Definition:Female ejaculation also known as gushing or squirting refers to the expulsion of noticeable amounts of clear fluid by human females from the para urethral duct through and around the urethra during or before an orgasm. The exact source and nature of the fluid continues to be a topic of debate among medical professionals and is related to doubts over the existence of the G.Spot.

Report:  In questionnaire surveys, 35–50% of women report that they have at some time experienced the gushing of fluid during orgasm. Other studies find anywhere from 10–69%, depending on the definitions and methods used. For instance Krakatoa (1994) surveyed 200 women and found that 6% reported ejaculating, an additional 13% had some experience and about 60% reported release of fluid without actual gushing. Reports on the volume of fluid expelled vary considerably from amounts that would be imperceptible to a woman, to mean values of 1–5 ml, although volumes as high as one pint (473 ml) have been reported.

Source of Fluid:
         One very practical objection relates to the reported volumes ejaculated since this fluid must be stored somewhere in the pelvis, of which the urinary bladder is the largest source. The actual volume of the para-urethral tissue is quite small. By comparison, male ejaculate varies from 0.2–6.6 ml (0.04–1.3 tsp) (95% confidence interval), with a maximum of 13 ml (2.6 tsp). Therefore claims of larger amounts of ejaculate are likely to contain at least some amount of urine. The eleven specimens analyzed by Goldberg in 1983, ranged from 3–15 ml (0.6–3.0 tsp). One source states that Skene's glands are capable of excreting 30–50 ml (6–10 tsp) in 30–50 seconds, but it is unclear how this was measured and has not been confirmed. One approach is to use a chemical like methylene blue so that any urinary component can be detected.

Function: The physiological function of the purported liquid is unknown. A 2009 paper in Medical Hypotheses  suggests that it may have an anti-microbial function, protecting from urinary tract infections.

Research:Research has attempted to use chemicals that are excreted in the urine so that any urinary contamination can be detected. Further methodological issues include the fact that the composition of the fluid appears to vary with the menstrual cycle, and that the biochemical profile of the para-urethral tissues varies with age. Other issues relate to the sensitivity and specificity of the markers chosen. The key questions are the source of the fluid produced, and its composition. Some relevant findings have been presented in conferences but never published in peer review journals, and many others are in difficult to access resources.

Late 20th Century: The topic did not receive serious attention again until a review by Josephine Lowndes Sevely and JW Bennett appeared in 1978. This latter paper, which traces the history of the controversies to that point, and a series of three papers in 1981 by Beverly Whipple and colleagues in the Journal of Sex Research, became the focal point of the current debate. Whipple became aware of the phenomenon when studying urinary incontinence, with which it is often confused. As Sevely and Bennett point out, this is "not new knowledge, but a rediscovery of lost awareness that should contribute towards reshaping our view of female sexuality". Nevertheless, the theory advanced by these authors was immediately dismissed by many other authors, such as physiologist Joseph Boleyn, for not being based on rigorous scientific procedures, and psychiatrist Helen Singer Karlan (1983) stated.

''Female ejaculation (as distinct from female urination during orgasm) has never been scientifically substantiated and is highly questionable, to say the least''

Even some radical feminist writers, such as Sheila Jeffrey s  (1985) were dismissive, claiming it as a figment of male fantasy:

''There are examples in the sexological literature of men s sexual fantasies about lesbian sexuality. Kraft-Ebing invented a form of ejaculation for women''

Combination of these methods of masturbation

Masturbation is a common form of auto eroticism, providing sexual pleasure or orgasm in the absence of a partner. The act, when performed with a partner, is called mutual masturbation and is sometimes used as an alternative to sexual intercourse. Masturbation refers to the sexual stimulation of a person's genitals, usually to the point of orgasm. The stimulation can be performed manually, by use of objects or tools, or by some combination of these methods.

THE ACT IN MEN Habit of Masturbation

The hand is the most common object of masturbation. In men, the penis is stroked, massaged or squeezed with one or both hands until erection is achieved. Sometimes, erection is aroused by sight or by the thought of a woman. Men imagine all the actions and pleasures associated with sex and how wonderful an admired lady would be in bed. This causes them to feel excited. The erection is then maintained by handling the penis until the point of ejaculation.

Some men use lubricants, such as soap, cream, etc to make the hand more slippery as it passes forwards and backwards over the penis. The lubricant reduces the chance of bruising the penis in the process. Some men have been known to use other objects or method to achieve orgasm. Some use other devises made of soft rubber shaped like the female vagina while some have been known to create holes in their mattress for the same purpose.

Once orgasm is achieved, which is indicated by ejaculation, the person feels relaxed as if he had normal sexual intercourse. In some, who have formed a habit of masturbating regularly, this relief may be followed by a strong sense of GUILT and a RESOLUTION to STOP indulging in the habit; but like all habits, they would do it again and again with little or no self control.

The Habit of Masturbation THE ACT IN WOMEN

Masturbation is a sexual behaviour developed in childhood. This behaviour is normally discarded as the individual grows up into adulthood. It becomes an abnormal situation when it is sustained to adulthood. The following are some of the reasons why masturbation is practiced.

(A) Lateness in Getting Married:
The men become fully sexually developed without a steady partner for relieving their sexual arousals. Those who cannot seek sexual relationship with prostitutes often continue the adolescent practice of masturbation.

(B) Boarding of Adolescents:
This encourages exchange of information about masturbation and allows room for adventures into it. When such boarding facilities are unisex and far away from where sexual intercourse with the other sex is possible, then masturbation becomes quite rampant. Adolescents and everyone involved in this habit are therefore advised to access my free GIFT which is a collection of edifying downloadable e-books for the development of the mind at

(C) Sex Materials:

With technological advancement comes literature (books, magazines, pictures) and audio-visual materials (films, televisions and videos) which arouse sexual desires in individuals.

In women, the hand is also the first instrument to try when masturbating. The clitoris is stroke, fondled or squeezed to arouse sexual response. This causes the clitoris to swell and the secretion of fluid in and around the vagina. This, of course, is associated with a pleasurable feeling. The lips of the vagina are also stroked with the fingers and as the vagina becomes wet with secretion, the fingers may be poked in and out of the vagina. The stroking of the clitoris, lips of the vagina and poking of the vagina are alternated at random and at will until orgasm is achieved.

Of course in women, orgasm is less easy to recognize as there is no ejaculation of semen. It is usually associated with an intense emotional feeling of loss of control of oneself for a brief period. This may be accompanied by rhythmic contraction of the muscles around the vagina and the anus, in a fashion similar to that felt by men during ejaculation. As masturbation becomes a habit in women, other objects apart from the hand are used. The candle is an object that is used by many girls, while some use dido which is an object shaped like the male penis. Other women use vibrator which is also an object shaped like the male penis and which has a battery that causes it to vibrate when switched on. Recent research has revealed that in addition to the reasons listed earlier in this work, most people decide to masturbate because of:

 their decision not to be unfaithful to their partners,

 their fear of contracting HIV/AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases,

 their fear of unwanted pregnancies,

 their bitterness and disappointment of past or recent experience in relationships with men or women, and

 lack of confidence and courage in reaching out to people of the opposite sex.

I Have Been Thinking

Albert Camus said: Don't walk behind me; I may not lead. Don't walk in front of me; I may not follow. Just walk beside me and be my friend.

Keep Your Man .... Fit!

10 Men's Health Symptoms Your Guy Shouldn't Ignore
By Jennifer Gruenemay
Men are notorious for ignoring health symptoms and avoiding the doctor's office. Broken pinky? Just use duct tape. But not all medical issues can be fixed so easily. What may be a pesky problem to a man could be erectile dysfunction, sleep apnea, prostate cancer and more. Here are 10 health symptoms your guy – and you – should take seriously...
Even when a man finally admits to feeling crummy, getting him to schedule a doctor’s appointment is like getting a cat to agree to a bath.

“American men make 130 million fewer [doctor] visits each year than women,” says Will Courtenay, Ph.D., California psychotherapist who specializes in treating men.

According to a 2007 Harris Interactive poll, 92% of men surveyed wait at least a few days before seeing a doctor when they have a health concern just in case the problem gets better on its own; 29% wait "as long as possible."

But your man isn’t invincible.

Delaying check-ups and treatment until he’s seriously ill is a gamble nobody should take, especially because not all ailments have symptoms.

That’s where you come in. Women can help their men spot trouble. Here are 10 danger signs to watch out for:

Danger sign #1: He has a big gut.

If his waist is bigger than his hips, he raises his risk for disease.

“A man should maintain a measurement under 40 inches,” says Walter Gaman, M.D., of
Executive Medicine of Texas. “If the waist size exceeds that, the risk for diabetes and heart disease increase.”A large belly can also contribute to stroke, sleep apnea and osteoarthritis, he says.

Here’s how to check if your man measures up:

1. Measure his waist where the point of his elbow falls when his arms hang at the sides. Have him first breathe out and then take shallow breaths as you measure.

2. Measure his hips at the widest part of his buttocks, as seen from the side. The measuring tape should be snug, but tight.

3. To calculate his waist-to-hip ratio, divide his waist measurement by his hip measurement. Men are considered at risk if the result is 90% or more.

A moderate diet and exercise program can help your guy cut the belly fat and his risk for heart disease and diabetes.

Cutting out sodas (even diet drinks) and alcoholic beverages can be an effortless way to lose 10 pounds over a year, Gaman says.

Plus, get him off the couch and into workout gear.

Daily exercise aerobic exercise and strength training is best, says
Isaac Eliaz, M.D., director of research at Amitabha Clinic in Northern California. Encourage him to slowly increase the length and intensity of the workouts – but by no more than a 5% increase in weights every couple weeks.

Danger sign #2: He's frequently constipated.

Tell him to save grunting for the weight room. Too much straining from constipation can lead to painful, itchy and downright uncomfortable hemorrhoids.

After age 50, constipation tends to worsen in men and women, says Cynthia Yoshida, a gastroenterologist in Charlottesville, Va. Blame diet changes, decrease in exercise, medications, certain diseases or prolonged bed rest after an accident or illness.Occasional constipation can be relieved with an over-the-counter remedy. Yoshida recommends MiraLAX, because it doesn’t have side effects that other remedies do, such as bloating, cramps, gas or a sudden urge to go.

Most important, don't let him shrug off chronic constipation as a nuisance. It can signal a tumor in the lower bowel that’s blocking waste from exiting the body.

In fact, any change in bowel habits (constipation or diarrhea) that last two or more weeks should be evaluated. Both can signal colorectal cancer, which is the third-leading cause of cancer-related death in men, Yoshida says.

Other symptoms to watch for: bloody or narrow stools, unexplained weight loss or fatigue, cramping and bloating, Yoshida says.

“Colorectal cancer can be present for several years before symptoms develop,” she says. “So it’s important to see a doctor if you have any of the above symptoms.”
Danger sign #3: He can't "get it up" or keep it there.

A bruised ego isn't the only problem your fellow has to face if he's having trouble getting or maintaining erections.

Erectile dysfunction (ED) can be a side effect of some medications (for example, high blood pressure drugs and diuretics) or smoking, says Dennis Lin, M.D., sex psychologist and attending physician at the Department of Psychiatry at Beth Israel Medical Center in New York.

But it also may mean he’s twice as likely to die of a heart attack, according to a German study of 1,519 men. ED is also linked to high cholesterol, diabetes, kidney disease, chronic alcoholism, multiple sclerosis, vascular disease and neurologic disease, Lin says.

And don’t forget about possible psychological factors: Stress, anxiety, guilt, depression, low self-esteem, and fear of sexual failure cause 10%-20% of ED cases. So when is it time to get a doctor’s help?

“When erection problems prevent you from having a healthy sex life,” Lin says. “There should be a low threshold to see a doctor.”
Danger sign #4: He loves to bake in the sun.When it comes to men and cancer, you hear a lot about prostates and colons. But skin cancer is the No. 1 diagnosed cancer in men and women.

“Skin cancer rates are skyrocketing – it’s the most rapidly increasing cancer in the U.S.,” Courtenay says. “And the death rate from melanoma – the deadliest form – is twice as high for men as it is for women.”

The majority of skin cancers occur in Caucasian men over age 50, says D.J. Verret, M.D., a head and neck surgeon in Dallas.

Other risk factors include:
  • Being older than 40
  • Fair skin, red hair or blue eyes
  • An inability to tan
  • Increased UR exposure (outdoor activities or work)
  • Sunbathing or use of tanning beds
  • A history of radiation therapy
  • Personal or family history of skin cancer
  • An impaired immune system

Protect your man plus yourself and the kids by applying broad-spectrum sunscreen (which blocks both ultraviolet A and B rays) every 2-3 hours.

Select an SPF (sun protection factor) of at least 30, she says, and look for these active ingredients on the label: zinc, titanium and avobenzone.

Skin cancer can develop any place that’s exposed to UV radiation, so don’t overlook his ears, nose, lips, scalp, forehead, neck and shoulders. Check out more
sun slip-ups.

Stash a facial moisturizer with sunscreen in your man’s toiletry bag, and tuck a sunscreen stick in his workout bag and glove box for last-minute applications.

Danger sign #5: Antacids are his best friend.

Unfortunately, indigestion, or acid reflux, is a frequent unwanted guest at game-night parties with pepperoni pizza, spicy chili, onion rings and beer.

Occasional heartburn is nothing to worry about, but chronic acid reflux two or more times a week, especially at night suggests he has gastro-esophogeal reflux disease (GERD), Eliaz says.

Left untreated, GERD can lead to inflammation, bleeding and ulcers of the esophagus and even esophageal cancer.

Most cases of heartburn are easily treated.

“Changes in eating habits and daily routines can [reduce] the number of future episodes,” Eliaz says.

Start by avoiding these:

  • Trans fats
  • Processed meats
  • Sugars
  • Highly processed foods
  • Carbonated beverages
  • Acidic fruits and juices
  • Alcohol
  • Peppermint
  • Chocolate
  • Nuts
  • Caffeinated food and beverages
  • Oily foods

Raising the head of the bed 4-6 inches not with pillows but by putting blocks under its legs also may help ease discomfort, Eliaz says. Plus, nag him to lose weight, stop smoking and eat smaller meals. For more remedies, check out 15 Dos and Don’ts of Heartburn.

If those steps don’t help, over-the-counter proton pump inhibitors (PPIs) often can relieve frequent heartburn, says Michael Rahmin, M.D., a gastroenterologist in Ridgewood, N.J. He suggests Zegerid OTC the most recent PPI to receive FDA approval. It offers 24-hour relief with one dose a day as part of a 14-day treatment.

If the burn still persists, your man needs to see a doctor. If the esophageal lining is constantly aggravated by leaking stomach acids, inflammation can occur and develop into a precancerous disease called Barrett’s esophagus, Eliaz says. One in 50 of those with Barrett’s develops esophageal cancer.

Danger sign #6: He's always thirsty.

An unquenchable thirst is a symptom of diabetes, an incurable metabolic disease that raises blood sugar levels. So are frequent urination, extreme hunger, fatigue, unexplained weight loss or gain, nausea, blurred vision, sores that are slow to heal, frequent infections, ED, and tingling in the hands and feet, Eliaz says.

Diabetes is the sixth leading cause of death in men, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC).

Risk factors include:

  • Being older than 45 years of age
  • Having a parent or sibling with diabetes
  • Being overweight
  • High blood pressure
  • High cholesterol
  • History of vascular disease
  • Habitual physical inactivity

A simple yearly blood test at his doctor’s office can measure glucose levels and diagnose diabetes, Gaman says.

If he’s having symptoms, he may need a more advanced blood test called a hemoglobin A1C that tracks glucose levels over a longer period.

Danger sign #7: He snores.

If a chainsaw or Mack truck can’t compete with your sweetheart’s nightly noises, don’t run for cover in another room. Get help: Chronic snoring can be serious.

Severe snoring accompanied by breathing lapses are signs of obstructive sleep apnea syndrome (OSAS), Verret says. If untreated, it increases the risk of high blood pressure, irregular heartbeat, heart attack, stroke and sudden death.

A poor night's sleep can also contribute to daytime drowsiness, which boosts his risk of accidents. Unintentional injuries are the third-leading cause of death in men, according to the CDC.

If you're lucky enough to sleep through the snoring, watch for other sleep apnea signs, such as feeling tired during the day, thrashing arms and legs while sleeping, decreased libido, mood swings and sometimes depression, Verret says.

Changing sleep positions, losing weight (as little as 10 pounds) and avoiding alcohol, sedatives and large meals before bedtime may help stop the noise.

If they don't, schedule a doctor's visit and consider other treatments, such as surgery, the continuous positive airway pressure (CPAP) a device that blows air into the nose while he’s asleep or a dental appliance to pull the jaw and tongue forward at night, Verret says.

It could save his life or at the least your relationship.

Danger sign #8: He's short of breath, wheezes or coughs up mucus.
Shortness of breath, wheezing and a persistent cough can stem from several health conditions, such as asthma, obesity and heart disease. But it also signals chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (COPD), the fifth leading cause of death in men, according to the CDC.

“COPD is almost always caused by smoking,” says Edward T. Bope, M.D., family medicine residency director at Riverside Methodist Hospital in Columbus, Ohio.

Second-hand smoke, chemical fumes, air pollution and dust can also cause the disease.

Its symptoms shouldn’t be ignored because COPD gets worse as time goes by, Bope says.

Danger sign #9: He feels pain while peeing.

In women, “it hurts when I pee” usually means an annoying bladder infection. In men, it signals an enlarged prostate gland or prostate cancer.

“If they live long enough, most men are going to have to deal with the symptoms of an enlarged prostate,” says Janet Farrar Worthington, co-author of The Prostate: A Guide for Men and the Women Who Love Them (Grand Central Publishing).

Benign prostatic hyperplasia (BPH), a non-cancerous enlargement of the prostate, may be caused by hormone changes in aging men, Eliaz says.

“Fifty percent of men in their 60s and as many as 90% in their 70s have it,” he says.

But painful urination is a sign of a more serious problem: prostate cancer, which 1 in 6 men will develop, according to the Prostate Cancer Foundation.

Your man’s risk increases if he's over age 50, overweight, doesn't exercise or African-American and has one or more first-degree relative (father, brother, son) with a history of prostate cancer. A new study published yesterday also linked not drinking enough coffee to increased prostate cancer risk.

Another risk factor: a vasectomy, Eliaz says. Some studies have shown a link between the surgical birth control method and prostate cancer, but the increase in risk is relatively small, according to the
National Cancer Institute.

The earliest stages of prostate cancer often have no symptoms, so routine screening for prostate specific antigen levels is important. Plus, get your man to a doctor immediately if he has any sign of prostate trouble.

Common symptoms of prostate cancer and BPH include trouble urinating, a weak urine stream, blood in urine or semen, pelvic pain or discomfort and frequent urinary tract infections.

Danger sign #10: He's depressed or has thoughts of suicide.

We all deal with work stress, money worries and other anxieties, but not all men can cope well. Suicide ranks eighth among the CDC's top 10 causes of death in men.

Here are some signs that your mate may be suicidal, Lin says:

  • Suddenly visits friends or family (one last time)
  • Sudden, significant decline or improvement in mood
  • Gets affairs in order, including making a will
  • Buys items that could be used to carry out suicide, such as a gun, rope or medications
  • Talks about suicide
  • Writes a note threatening suicide

“Depression is a serious medical illness like diabetes or asthma,” Lin says. “If he feels depressed, have him see a doctor right away. Waiting for too long can be deadly.”

Counseling, medication and other therapies could save his life.